Couples Counseling
How does Couples Counseling Work?
Couples counseling is your opportunity to learn about love, relationship and to find out how to change your relationship into a loving and intimate union of two people. There have been many books written to try and explain how to build a good relationship. And though they are helpful, they are not specific to any one particular relationship.
Each relationship is very unique and must be analyzed by a professional who knows about all aspects of a working relationship to find where your relationship is not functioning and is causing disharmony for you.
My book “Love with a Brain” is a outline of my Intimacy Enhancement method of couples therapy. I have helped so many people through decades of therapy that a book to help couples was a needed step for a lot of relationships that can not benefit from my direct therapy. If you can not come to see me directly, get ahold of a copy of “Love with a Brain” – Your relationship will thank you for it.
A Knowledgeable Therapist makes all the Difference.
In couples counseling, a therapist does not take sides. There are always three truths in a relationship: her truth, his truth and then there is the truth. The truth is the “relationship”. And it is the relationship that needs to be repaired. This is why it takes a professional to help repair a relationship.
Couples tend to see their own individual sides and not the side of the other and how those two sides mingle together. It is the coming together of the two people that is not working. Therefore, a good therapist is able to sort out the damage and help the couple to work together, without giving up their own truth along the way.
I am a great Therapist that:
-Does not take sides
-Is direct in instruction
-Does not allow the fighting to continue in session
-Recognizes what is the relationship issue and what are the individual issues
-Sees the truth without emotional entanglement
-Can talk about sex freely and openly
-Points out successes and attributes that the couple cannot see for themselves
-Can combine couples and individual therapy to maximize results & save money
Signs that your relationship can improve with Couples Counseling?
People in relationships tend to think that they can easily leave their current relationship and find another partner that does not create the same problems. But in reality, the problems that they are experiencing in their current relationship will continue into the next relationship if left untreated. USA Today reports that 76% of divorcees do not remarry. One of the primary reasons for this is that people recognize the previous problems early in a new relationship and do not understand why they are attracting the same type of partners.
Because the “how to” do things properly are missing, the same issues arise in their next relationship. If any of the issues below are cropping up or are recurring in your current relationship, starting couples counseling is always best if started now rather than later.
Connection
Communication
Trust
Relationship issues
Anger Issues
Dynamics
Transition to parenthood
Blended Family Issues/Step
Pre-marital Counseling
Self-empowerment
Co-dependency
Addiction/Substance Abuse
Betrayal
Passion
Resentment Management
Childhood trauma
Rape/Molestation
PTSD
Learning to Love
Compassion
Compromise
Truth telling
Defining the truth
Team building
Parenting
Building a United Front
Ownership of responsibility
Compatible sex life
Chores and Daily Schedule
Private Time