First I need to tell you what therapy is not. It is not a quick fix to your relationship or to your personal growth. Too many people come to therapy thinking that they will get some great advise and then work on that advice for while themselves. Therapy doesn’t work like that. Therapists don’t give advise. They don’t tell you how to live your life or what to do. Therapy might be clarity at some point in time that tells you what to do. But there is a process in therapy that cannot be avoided for instant gratification. There is a period of time where the client learns to “trust” the therapist. Depending on if you are “slow to warm” or you trust quickly, will depend on this part of the process. During that process, the therapist must seek information about the client: past history, relationship history, sex history, family history and so on. A therapist cannot help with accurate information unless she/he has a lot of information. So the two processes that happen first are trust and information. If the therapist is good, she/he will be able to start immediately with some first aide measures and homework that will be immediately evident. However the real work cannot start until the first process is well underway. So if you seek therapy, make sure you can afford the long haul, you can commit to the time to go weekly and you can trust the process.